Facts are, hi sec is an echo chamber where people who have never been to, or have had limited experience in, low/null talk about how dangerous low and null is. And because these ideas are never balanced with realistic feedback, this fear of the unknown festers and evolves into an insurmountable obstacle.

The trap is thinking that with just a slightly better ship or just a few more skillpoints that this obstacle will go away, but the massive amount of FUD spread by hi seccers creates a moving goalpost. No matter how far you advance, you can always find a further goal.

Avoiding the Tar Pit

• EVE Lifts Those Who Lift Each Other - Get a buddy, in fact get as many buddies as you can. This is not a game that rewards flying solo, so don't try to play it like that. This is not a game for people who don't want to work together. This game rewards cooperation and teamwork over phat l3wtz.
• Knowledge is Power - Instead of sitting in hi sec in ignorance, try learning some of the game mechanics that the pirates intend to use against you. If you honestly believe that jumping into a gate camp is an automatic death sentence, then you are doing it wrong. You can empower yourself by learning the traps they expect you to fall for and avoiding them.
• Don't Commit All At Once - You don't need to move your noctis and golem to lo sec to get into lo sec. You should start small, with cruisers and stuff. And try to get a team when you do commit. Once you get the feel of your region you can start bringing in the bigger stuff. Actually, you will find that for most PVP the bigger stuff isn't even that great!
• Don't Demand Changes to Ecosystems You Don't Understand - If you are willing to admit you've never lived in lo/null, don't suggest changes to those systems! This will only serve to make you look like a fool to those who actually do live in those places and are not stuck in the hi sec tar pit trap.

Remember above all that the first step to lifting yourself is to lift each other.